There is a federal non-prosecution, non-arrest policy for rape.. as the basic premise and the first line of the VAWA…the “policy” is for the rapist to pay fines..to get his rape cases, “sealed”

It also authorizes the DOJ to investigate women that never commited a crime…they were raped on their job…

Basically, they are selling women to rape…and subsidizing rapists for the corporations…
“sealing rape cases” federal non-prosecution policy…and billions in revenue for “adjudication” of rape cases…”non-disclosed settlements” in civil actions….while refusing to put a rapist in prison..

I would like help to put one rapist out of the workplace and in prison where he belongs…

No woman should have to leave her job…due to rape by management…it is the assailant that should go to prison…

I don’t understand why there has to be a rape “trial” for rape victim number 12 or 15…
I don’t understand how any man can rape more than a dozen women, and have “no record”

But, I do know it is directly due to the “policy” of Bidens’ VAWA…

Please help me to simply put one rapist in prison…
it should be a crime to rape a woman in the workplace,,,,even the “contract labor”

I can be reached at beverlyprather1@verizon.net

Judge Smells The BS – Shoots Down Lying Advocate Fortson – http://wadvpress.org/?p=723

Tacoma DV Advocate China Fortson Violates Custody/Ethics Law – http://wadvpress.org/?p=683

But, thanks anyway and keep the suggestions coming!

http://glennsacks.com/blog/?p=5008

1. VAWA is illegal
2. VAWA is unconstitutional
3. VAWA is in violation of human rights
4. VAWA is destructive for families
5. VAWA puts government funds and other (dangerous) resources in the hands of private (non-profit) organizations staffed with very sick individuals.
6. VAWA does not address the issue it was meant to address, i.e. to reduce domestic violence, it does not offer a solution, it does not resolve or improve anything and it only aggravates the problem (e.g. after visiting a shelter and accusing her husband, the woman must hide for the rest of her life).
7. VAWA causes innocent citizen to lose respect for the federal government and the legal system.

The amazing thing is that because so many profit from the current arrangement (the innocent American spouse of the foreign immigrant is not on that list) it is so hard for people to admit the destructive nature of VAWA.

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The VAWA immigration loop-hole:

The formula is simple: Pretend you’re in love with someone, get them to marry you, then, a few months later start making unsupported accusations of abuse. The accusations will stick, even if completely unsupported by facts. In no time they’re on the path to permanent residency and with plenty of help from US taxpayers. As you can see from the many stories in this forum, the innocent US spouse often pays a heavy price in terms of psychological distress, legal bills, damage to reputation, and in many cases even a criminal record.

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A couple of points to think about when looking for a way to change VAWA in order to remove the incentive for an immigrant woman to deceive an American citizen, prostitute herself and falsely accuse him of violence shortly after they are married in order to get her Green Card:

1. Many people are benefiting from the current arrangement. Apparently the American citizen spouse is the only one who suffers – Although WE know that’s not the case: In reality everyone suffers from the current arrangement in various ways but federal money seems to be the dominating factor. The love of money is the root of all evil.

2. Very few people understand how the American citizen spouse suffers from being deceived for sometimes a substantial period of time and then falsely accused by the very woman he is helping out of love. Most do not care even if they do understand. The most common comment I have heard is: “But YOU married her”. They do not understand that we, the victims have been deceived, that the foreign spouse prostituted herself in the process and ended up accusing us of crimes we never committed causing a great deal of damage in the process.

3. Since we already HAVE experienced the horror of VAWA immigration fraud we are unlikely to be deceived again. When looking for a way to change VAWA in order to remove the incentive for an immigrant woman to deceive an American citizen, to prostitute herself and falsely accuse him of violence shortly after they are married in order to get her Green Card, we would not do it for our benefit but for future innocent potential VAWA fraud victims.

4. If we include among our motives the desire to prosecute the immigrant women for the false accusation, defamation of character and perjury, we will be perceived as seeking revenge and people are likely to deny our requests. Therefore we must adopt a strategy where our motives are to PREVENT injustice and to help future potential VAWA fraud victims. We should under no circumstances be perceived as selfish or as seeking revenge.

5. We should understand and at the same time explain that what we see here is a combination of a very sick law formulated by very sick women which is being abused by other very sick women. Any woman who decides to immigrate to the United States at any cost and plans to do anything in order to get a marriage certificate with the U.S. citizen including lying, deceiving, seducing and prostituting herself is a very sick woman. Some of the women who are currently employed at VAWA shelters and are instructing new women immigrants on how to manipulate VAWA in order to get the Green Card have done it themselves and therefore are equally ill. This type of women should not be allowed to receive federal grants or to determine who is falsely accused of violence.

The following questions need to be answered in order to choose a winning strategy that would eventually get others to listen, be sympathetic, cooperate and help us in our efforts:

How do we explain to others the extent of the damage the American citizen spouse suffers by being deceived to believe that the immigrant woman loves him and intends to be his wife, by being deceived to marry the foreign spouse and then by being falsely accused of violence he never committed?

How do we explain the damage others suffer from this VAWA fraud, for example the immigrant woman’s children, the tax payer, society?

What is the damage to the society as a whole caused by this VAWA fraud?

How to we create a perception that we are doing it not for our own benefit, that we are seeking the benefit of others, of future potential victims, of society as a whole?

Can you help with your answers to the above questions?

Thanks, – Al

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The immigration provisions in the Violence Against Women Act must be modified to prevent more immigrants from making false allegations of domestic violence against their U.S. citizen spouses. These provisions not only encourage false allegations of spousal abuse, but they are also causing marriage and immigration fraud, as well as ruining the lives of honest Americans.

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I had an opinion of U.S. immigration laws and procedures before I met the Mexican immigrant that abused and falsely accused me. I always thought that that U.S. immigration laws were not fair, too difficult, too complicated, discriminating to a point of being abusive.

I always envisaged immigrants of any type as victims of the U.S. immigration laws. I do understand and agree about the need to control and regulate immigration. The United States cannot simply allow anyone to immigrate to this country. While regulating immigration both the needs of this country, fairness and ethics must be maintained.

No matter what type of immigration procedure an immigrant goes through he or she will find that the immigration process is extremely stressful and takes its toll on immigrants in many ways: financial, time consumption, mental stress and emotional pain. In many cases the burden of the immigration process alone will cause crises in families, the workplace and other areas.

I believe that one of the greatest factors that pushes these unscrupulous women to manipulate VAWA and make false accusations against their husbands is definitely the unfairness of U.S. immigration laws. It is obvious that while immigration is complicated and costly, and at the same time there exists a loophole that we all know VAWA provides, there is a great incentive for an immigrant woman to take the low road of manipulating VAWA and making false accusations against her husband.

Nevertheless, the woman that decides to immigrate to the United States at any cost and plans to do anything in order to get a marriage certificate with the U.S. citizen including lying, deceiving, seducing and prostituting herself is not a person with a healthy mind. Only a very sick woman with a major personality disorder such as a sociopath or a psychopath would deliberately plan to deceive another person, making him believe that she truly loves him up until the point that he agrees to marry her and then immediately begin to sabotage their relationship (if you can call it a relationship) and proceeds with the false accusations of domestic violence against him, move to a VAWA shelter and file a self-petition with the U.S. immigration selfishly accusing the very same person who loves her and helps her of a crime he never committed.

I have been asking myself repeatedly who owns the primary blame for this terrible injustice. On one hand it is obvious that the unscrupulous woman is abusing a system that has been created with the best intentions. On the other hand these women would have never come up with their diabolic plans to deceive an American citizen, to pretend to love them and want to be their wives but then falsely accuse them of a crime they never committed unless there was a law, VAWA that provided them with a loop-hole for quick and easy immigration to the United States.

I believe that what we see here is a combination of a very sick law formulated by very sick women which is being abused by other very sick women. There are many other organizations where sick people help other sick people and there is nothing wrong with that. To mention a couple there is Alcoholics Anonymous and Emotions Anonymous. But those organizations do not receive grants from the Federal government and they are not involved in accusing anyone or helping anyone with their legal status in this country.

What I perceive to be the major issue with VAWA is first the law itself and the way it is worded. In addition the fact that people make their living depending on how many people they accuse is a major issue. What makes things worse is the fact that the people behind the execution of the law are women who have suffered, or claim to have suffered from abuse, either way mentally unhealthy women.

The situation that VAWA created in our society is that in many cases when VAWA is invoked a major destruction occurs, the destruction of a family, the destruction of the husband and the destruction of an innocent American citizen who merely wanted to help the foreign woman.

The obvious conclusion that I think any reasonable person would come to is that VAWA must be either fixed or completely abolished. Anyone who witnessed the destruction caused by the injustice that is enabled by VAWA would surely agree that this cannot be continued and need to be amended urgently.

I appeal to a your sense of ethics, values and integrity and respectfully ask you to help and assist in amending and fixing VAWA in order to put an end to the destruction and injustice that is currently being inflicted on innocent American citizens.

Thank you.

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Here’s my opinion on this entire discussion concerning VAWA:

The bottom line is that any male American citizen or legal resident who has done his due diligence to get familiar with VAWA would never marry a foreign spouse.

It is clear that by moving to the United States the foreign spouse would want her Green Card.

But it would be INSANE for the United States citizen (or legal resident) to marry the foreign woman or bring her to the United States on a fiancé visa, and here’s why:

The foreign woman wants her Green Card.

The foreign woman knows that by being accepted by a VAWA shelter getting her green card becomes automatic.

The foreign woman knows that by merely claiming domestic violence without actually it having occurred she would be automatically accepted by a VAWA shelter.

The foreign woman knows that she can make police reports about being a domestic violence victim and the police would simply write what she says.

The foreign woman knows that there’s only one obstacle in the way of her getting what she wants: A marriage certificate between her and an American citizen or legal resident.

The foreign woman knows that she must make getting the marriage certificate her major definite purpose and her major life goal. In order to reach her goal she would do anything. When I say anything I mean anything: begging, humiliating herself, lying, deceiving, seducing and prostituting.

Try to look at it from the male US citizen’s point of view: he meets a foreign woman who is begging him to help her. She may be telling him about her terrible life experience. She appears very interested in him. He may find her attractive. As she keeps her interest in him he may even fall in love with her. He suspects nothing. After knowing her for a while he agrees to either sponsor her fiancé visa or marry her.

Everything he does for her is out of love and a desire to help the foreign woman. He helps with so many things and she receives his help while keeping the charade and sticking to her plan. Her family may be in on it and they may be acting along with her. Her friends may be doing the same thing. The US citizen is kept in the dark.

But just as soon as the US citizen signs the marriage certificate the foreign woman knows that she has reached her goal. From now on it’s just a matter of following a script:

Multiple 911 calls, maybe a couple a visits to the police station. Then contacting a VAWA shelter and putting on the act of the victim. If she has the bare minimum of acting skills the shelter would believe her.

There’s only one problem: the innocent US citizen is falsely accused. He may be arrested. He may have a protective order against him. He may lose his job.

His life is totally ruined.

He will get very, very sick.

Is that fair? Is this justice? Remember, he only wanted to help the foreign woman out of love and compassion.

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Let me repeat what I wrote above and add some clarifications:

1. The foreign woman wants her Green Card. There may be various reasons why she would want the GC. It may be that she likes America more than her home country. It may be that she had suffered traumatic experience(s) in her home country. She may be poor. She may come from a poor family. She may not have been able to study what she wanted. It may be hard for her to get a job in her home country. She may not have been able to have the life she had dreamed of. She may have been a crime victim. She may have been raped. She may have been a domestic violence victim. She may have been a drug addict. She may have been a prostitute. She may be running away from family or friends who don’t want her around.

There may be many different reasons. the bottom line is: The foreign woman wants her Green Card.

2. The foreign woman knows that by being accepted by a VAWA shelter getting her green card becomes automatic. I am not sure whether that’s actually true or not. All the lawyers I talked to, both immigration and divorce lawyers say that there must be real evidence of physical violence for a GC to be granted to the alleged victim. All the immigrants and the Social Workers I talked to say that when a woman gets to a VAWA shelter, the shelter always finds a way to get her the GC.

3. The foreign woman knows that by merely claiming domestic violence without actually it having occurred she would be automatically accepted by a VAWA shelter. This is the most horrible part about VAWA which affect everybody – not only men who marry immigrants. There are many reasons why a woman may decide to falsely accuse her spouse: She may be desperate. She may need assistance with the divorce. She may be greedy. She may be mad at her spouse. She may be seeking revenge. She may be mentally ill. She may be a psychopath or she may want a Green Card at any cost.

4. The foreign woman knows that she can make police reports about being a domestic violence victim and the police would simply write what she says. It is so obvious that these women get instructions from the VAWA shelter on how to do these things even though the shelter is not allowed to do that. They do it anyway. That’s extremely unethical and it results in permanent damage to the male spouse.

5. The foreign woman knows that there’s only one obstacle in the way of her getting what she wants: A marriage certificate between her and an American citizen or legal resident.

The foreign woman knows that she must make getting the marriage certificate her major definite purpose and her major life goal. In order to reach her goal she would do anything. When I say anything I mean anything: begging, humiliating herself, lying, deceiving, seducing and prostituting….

I don’t think I could have been any clearer but I will be happy to add more if you have more questions.

Thanks, – Al

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Here’s the bottom line:

It comes down to two different parts of the problem:

1. Immigrant woman wants a Green Card. Immigrant woman decides to seduce a legal resident, to pretend to be the perfect wife, to convince him to marry her, to falsely accuse him of domestic violence, to get to a VAWA shelter and to file a VAWA self-petition.
2. The immigrant woman makes false accusations of domestic violence against her innocent husband.

Thinking about how to prevent both 1. and 2. brings me to the following:

There is an easy solution for 2. A possible solution would be to agree that no woman accepted by VAWA shelter makes accusations against her husband. The purpose of the VAWA shelter is not to accuse the husband. The purpose of the VAWA shelter is to provide protection to the wife. There is no reason for the accusations. I think this is quite a logical solution and it is very easy to implement.

Number one requires more creativity. Immigrant women are informed about the incredibly high rate of success of the plan described in 1. It is common knowledge that every immigrant woman who is accepted by a VAWA shelter is automatically granted a Green Card.

This incites immigrant women to plan on manipulating the system by doing the false accusations trick. In order to do that of course, they first need to manipulate a legal resident man and convince him to marry them.

There’re a couple of ideas that come to mind:

1. The first one would be to inform every man the United States of the possibility that his foreign girlfriend may be marrying him in order to manipulate the system by making false accusations of domestic violence against him.

2. The second idea would be that a system for compensating the male victims and penalizing the false accusers be implemented.

Let’s look of this post as a brainstorming session. Please come up with any ideas you may have and post them as a reply.

Thanks so much for your help.

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Here’s my opinion on this entire discussion concerning VAWA:

The bottom line is that any male American citizen or legal resident who has done his due diligence to get familiar with VAWA would never marry a foreign spouse.

It is clear that by moving to the United States the foreign spouse would want her Green Card.

But it would be INSANE for the United States citizen (or legal resident) to marry the foreign woman or bring her to the United States on a fiancé visa, and here’s why:

The foreign woman wants her Green Card.

The foreign woman knows that by being accepted by a VAWA shelter getting her green card becomes automatic.

The foreign woman knows that by merely claiming domestic violence without actually it having occurred she would be automatically accepted by a VAWA shelter.

The foreign woman knows that she can make police reports about being a domestic violence victim and the police would simply write what she says.

The foreign woman knows that there’s only one obstacle in the way of her getting what she wants: A marriage certificate between her and an American citizen or legal resident.

The foreign woman knows that she must make getting the marriage certificate her major definite purpose and her major life goal. In order to reach her goal she would do anything. When I say anything I mean anything: begging, humiliating herself, lying, deceiving, seducing and prostituting.

Try to look at it from the male US citizen’s point of view: he meets a foreign woman who is begging him to help her. She may be telling him about her terrible life experience. She appears very interested in him. He may find her attractive. As she keeps her interest in him he may even fall in love with her. He suspects nothing. After knowing her for a while he agrees to either sponsor her fiancé visa or marry her.

Everything he does for her is out of love and a desire to help the foreign woman. He helps with so many things and she receives his help while keeping the charade and sticking to her plan. Her family may be in on it and they may be acting along with her. Her friends may be doing the same thing. The US citizen is kept in the dark.

But just as soon as the US citizen signs the marriage certificate the foreign woman knows that she has reached her goal. From now on it’s just a matter of following a script:

Multiple 911 calls, maybe a couple a visits to the police station. Then contacting a VAWA shelter and putting on the act of the victim. If she has the bare minimum of acting skills the shelter would believe her.

There’s only one problem: the innocent US citizen is falsely accused. He may be arrested. He may have a protective order against him. He may lose his job.

His life is totally ruined.

He will get very, very sick.

Is that fair? Is this justice? Remember, he only wanted to help the foreign woman out of love and compassion.

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Let me repeat what I wrote above and add some clarifications:

1. The foreign woman wants her Green Card. There may be various reasons why she would want the GC. It may be that she likes America more than her home country. It may be that she had suffered traumatic experience(s) in her home country. She may be poor. She may come from a poor family. She may not have been able to study what she wanted. It may be hard for her to get a job in her home country. She may not have been able to have the life she had dreamed of. She may have been a crime victim. She may have been raped. She may have been a domestic violence victim. She may have been a drug addict. She may have been a prostitute. She may be running away from family or friends who don’t want her around.

There may be many different reasons. the bottom line is: The foreign woman wants her Green Card.

2. The foreign woman knows that by being accepted by a VAWA shelter getting her green card becomes automatic. I am not sure whether that’s actually true or not. All the lawyers I talked to, both immigration and divorce lawyers say that there must be real evidence of physical violence for a GC to be granted to the alleged victim. All the immigrants and the Social Workers I talked to say that when a woman gets to a VAWA shelter, the shelter always finds a way to get her the GC.

3. The foreign woman knows that by merely claiming domestic violence without actually it having occurred she would be automatically accepted by a VAWA shelter. This is the most horrible part about VAWA which affect everybody – not only men who marry immigrants. There are many reasons why a woman may decide to falsely accuse her spouse: She may be desperate. She may need assistance with the divorce. She may be greedy. She may be mad at her spouse. She may be seeking revenge. She may be mentally ill. She may be a psychopath or she may want a Green Card at any cost.

4. The foreign woman knows that she can make police reports about being a domestic violence victim and the police would simply write what she says. It is so obvious that these women get instructions from the VAWA shelter on how to do these things even though the shelter is not allowed to do that. They do it anyway. That’s extremely unethical and it results in permanent damage to the male spouse.

5. The foreign woman knows that there’s only one obstacle in the way of her getting what she wants: A marriage certificate between her and an American citizen or legal resident.

The foreign woman knows that she must make getting the marriage certificate her major definite purpose and her major life goal. In order to reach her goal she would do anything. When I say anything I mean anything: begging, humiliating herself, lying, deceiving, seducing and prostituting….

I don’t think I could have been any clearer but I will be happy to add more if you have more questions.

Thanks, – Al

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The following information pertains to:

VAWA service center: International Women’s House, P.O. Box 1327 Decatur, Georgia 30031 Phone: 770-413-5557 Fax: 678-476-6804 Laura Mora, eMail: iwh@bellsouth.net

And their client: Martha Laura Granados (DOB 11/14/1966). Please let me have your feedback on the matter.

Thanks.

– Al

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Ref: Martha Laura Granados bellia66 Martha Granados (DOB 11/14/1966)

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October 2005, in Norcross, GA: It was our first date. I met Martha Laura Granados (DOB 11/14/1966) in a restaurant. It was a Mexican restaurant. Martha came in through the door. We sat at a table and ordered dinner and wine. After dinner I drove us to a night-club and we had a drink. Then I drove us back to the restaurant’s parking lot where we sat in the car and talked for a while. Martha told me you were terminating a painful relationship with the father of her three sons. Martha told me she was a Domestic Violence victim. Martha’s Mexican husband had been beating you for 17 years. I wanted to help.

Then Martha told me that she was like play-dough and that she could adapt to any man. I told Martha that I was not interested in a woman like that and told Martha that she should just be herself. Martha never mentioned it again.

November 2005, in Marietta, GA: It was the first time Martha came over to my house. I cooked dinner for us and we sat and ate. Then Martha kissed me with a lot of intensity. I commented about it and Martha said she always kissed that way. Then Martha suggested we would go to bed together.

January 2006, in Lawrenceville, GA: Martha needed to see her divorce lawyer. I came over to the house where Martha was staying to pick her up so that we would see the lawyer together. I left my briefcase in the house. While we where away Gil, Martha’s soon-to-be-ex came to the house and stole my briefcase. Martha called him on his cell and threatened him that if he would not return the briefcase Martha would have him arrested. After we got back to the house he returned the briefcase.

February 2006, in Lawrenceville, GA: A few days before Martha had to leave house she lived in with her sons – her ex’s house – I stayed over for a couple of days. Martha had her son, Raul completely under her control. Martha had managed to completely manipulate his mind. Martha had made him hate his own dad. Gil, her soon-to-be-ex came and broke off the side mirror of my car. His son, Raul saw him do it. Raul was ready to testify against his own father. Raul called his father and told him that if he doesn’t pay for the side mirror he would get arrested. Gil came back and dropped the money.

February 2006, in Lawrenceville, GA: After her divorce had become final, a few days before Martha had to leave house Martha lived in with her sons – her ex’s house – I stayed over for a couple of days. We were getting ready to move Martha to my house.

Martha told me that I was OK to live with.

Interpretation: She would not move with me because she loved me, rather she would move with me because she needed a place to stay for herself and her sons.

February 2006 – June, 2008, in Marietta, GA: I provided Martha and her 3 sons with a house, transportation, food, money, medical services and much more. Martha had gall bladder problems and I took Martha to numerous doctors and surgeons. I took Martha to the emergency room on several occasions. Martha broke her foot. Martha wanted cosmetic surgeries. I took Martha to doctors. I took Martha to numerous medical procedures. I sat by her bed. I gave Martha pain pills, suppositories, ice where it hurt… and so many other things that I helped Martha with. After Martha breast augmentation Martha wanted to seduce again only this time it would be other men. Martha was going to places and I didn’t know where. Martha was talking to men on the phone and I didn’t know who.

???, 2007, in Marietta, GA: Martha told me she wanted me to marry her. I told Martha that marrying her did not make any sense because I was not a US citizen yet and that I would not be able to sponsor her for immigration as a spouse. I told Martha that there was no way I would be able to fix her legal status because I was not a US citizen yet. Martha told me that there was a way. I told Martha that I had asked the lawyer and that she had said that I needed to be a citizen. Martha insisted that there was a way.

I asked Martha to explain. Martha refused to explain. Martha walked away and never mentioned marriage again until I would get my citizenship.

Interpretation: Martha was fully versed with VAWA. Martha knew that Martha would only have to claim Domestic Violence. Martha knew she didn’t need any proof in order to get to VAWA (Domestic Violence) center and get free housing, medical and psychological help, certification, employment and… immigration to the US. Martha’s plan was to do anything necessary so that I would marry her and then to falsely accuse me of Domestic Violence. It wouldn’t matter that I wasn’t a citizen. According to VAWA Martha would get immigration even when I was a legal resident and not a citizen.

February 2008, in Marietta, GA: I was on a business trip. Martha called me from the office of the plastic surgeon. Martha told me Martha wanted a breast augmentation. I said OK. When I came back Martha had the surgery. I stayed home for two weeks to take care of Martha. Martha had a lot of pain. I gave Martha pills, suppositories, ice and I stayed by her bed the entire time.

March 2008 – August, 2008, in Marietta, GA: her behavior has changed dramatically. Martha started flirting with other men in the stores, streets, telephone and Internet.

May, June, 2008, in Marietta, GA: I needed an oral surgery. Martha drove me to and from the surgery. Then we went on a trip to Orlando with her 2 sons. We made the trip to Orlando in June 2008 in a four-door car that I rented. Martha agreed to me renting that car. I paid for the car, the gas, the restaurants and hotels on the way.

On that trip Martha planned everything and did everything for Martha and her sons and I was only included when Martha needed me to pay. Every night at the hotel room her sons would turn up the AC and I would wake up freezing. The morning before last I woke up with a cold. I wanted to stay in bed a little longer. Martha went to the park alone with her two sons. The last day I went with Martha to the park. Martha was only concerned with what she and her sons wanted to do. I spent most of the day alone in the park. Later I fell asleep on a bench. Martha wanted to leave the park and Martha called my cell. I was sleeping and I missed her call. Then Martha called again and I woke up. I found Martha and her sons at the park’s exit and I drove Martha back to the hotel.

Interpretation: In December 2008 after Martha had managed to convince the shelter to accept her Martha told me that she had never forgiven me for the trip to Orlando we had had in June before she even asked me to marry her. In the court hearing of January 23, 2009 on Martha’s petition for the Temporary Protective Order Martha testified about this trip to Orlando that we took before we were even married. Martha was resentful about the car that according to her was too small.

August, 2008, in Marietta, GA: Martha wrote notes to her sons telling them to ignore me and to hate me. Martha made her sons write note saying demeaning words about me. Martha systematically convinced them to hate me. Martha did that so that she would be able to manipulate them and that they would cooperate with her. Martha was working on her plan to falsely accuse me of violence and Martha needed her sons to be on her side. I would find the notes later.

August 27, 2008, in Marietta, GA: We had been living together in my house for almost 3 years during which I provided Martha and her sons with house, food, medical care, protection and much more. Martha begged me to marry her. Martha said she and her sons needed to be legal in the US and I agreed. I told Martha I would only marry her with a pre-nup. Martha told me she didn´t want the pre-nup but then she agreed just so that I would marry her.

August 27, 2008, in Marietta, GA: Martha wanted to get married right then and there. We went to the court house in such a hurry that we didn’t have time to purchase wedding rings or to bring a camera to take photos. When the judge signed the marriage certificate and Martha kissed me, I felt like it was the devil kissing me. The whole thing felt completely wrong. I felt so bad for a few more days after that.

August 28, 2008, in Marietta, GA: Martha told me that she had a bad feeling about the pre-nup. I told Martha that I couldn’t marry her without a pre-nup, but if this marriage worked out we could make changes to it later.

Interpretation: Martha married me for a purpose. Her goal was to get as much as she could: Immigration, security, money, a vehicle. The pre-nup meant that she would not get anything that was legally mine and that was upsetting to her.

September of 2008, in Roswell, GA: We were invited to a multi-cultural event at a church in Roswell. I drove Martha and her two sons to the event. When we got there the three of them ran inside and took seats without leaving a seat for me. I asked Martha to move to another place where there would be room for all four of us but Martha refused. I told Martha that I would leave. Martha didn’t respond. I left and drove back home waiting for Martha to call me to ask me to pick Martha up. Martha never called. Someone gave Martha a ride. Martha didn’t want to tell me who. There were several other occasions where Martha left the house walking and I would drive around looking for her to pick her up.

September of 2008, in Marietta, GA: Martha was still upset about the pre-nup. I never told Martha that she needed to ask my permission to use the SUV but Martha was saying repeatedly “I know the SUV is yours and I need to ask your permission to use it”. Martha repeatedly left the house on foot with her sons as a demonstration, telling them that I had not given her permission to use the SUV, thus creating hate and resentments. One night Martha told me that she would have sex with me every night if I let her have the SUV. I told her that I would not like her to have sex with me if she did not feel like it herself.

September of 2008, in Roswell, GA: We had been married for less than a month. Martha, her sons, her sister and her brother-in-law were invited to our Venezuelan friend’s apartment, Abraham Bauza. I was not invited. The Venezuelan friend, Abraham was holding a grudge against me because I had been joking about the Dec. 2007 referendum in Venezuela where Chavez had been defeated. Abraham was also holding a grudge against me because I had told him I had difficulties understanding him because of his accent and pronunciation, which was true. During that evening Abraham insisted he did not want to see me anymore and Martha agreed and said that she did not want to live with me anymore. At about 8:00 PM I called Martha and asked her where she was. Martha told me that she was at Abraham’s apartment. Martha told me I was not invited and that Abraham did not want to see me anymore. I asked Martha to come back home and to fix the problem between me and Abraham. Martha never did anything to improve the relationship between me and Abraham, to the contrary. Martha used it to her “advantage”. Martha would use Abraham to help her when she would look for a domestic violence shelter and falsely accuse me.

September of 2008, in Marietta, GA: We just had an insignificant argument. Martha told me that one day she would change and then she would treat me differently, that she would change into a different person.

October 2008, in Marietta, GA: We had been married for only a few weeks. Martha told me that if I wouldn’t file for immigration for her and her sons she would leave me a present (make false accusations against me).

Interpretation: I did not take her threat seriously. I thought she was under stress and desperate to become legal in the US. She was going to accuse me of Domestic Violence already them in order to get to a VAWA shelter and get immigration through a self petition but since we had started a business with her sister and brother-in-law she was willing to wait.

October – November 2008, in Marietta, GA: Martha had made her 15 year old son give her complements continuously. Martha was spending long hours with him watching movies every day. He was saying “Mommy you are so pretty” and “Wow! Mommy you look so sexy”. Martha’s 18 year old was getting more depressed every day.

October 2008, in Marietta, GA: Martha said she was going to work cleaning houses. Some man picked her up every morning. When I asked Martha if she got paid she said no.

November, 2008, in Marietta, GA: her 15 year old son had been visiting his father. We drove to pick him up at Publix. Martha told me that she didn’t want her ex to know where we lived. Martha told me that he didn’t have our address. I told Martha that since he had our phone number, he also had our address because he could look it up in the internet. When we arrived at Publix her son called Martha on her cell to say that his father had driven him back to the house. Martha realized that he knew where we lived. Martha became upset, enraged and paranoid.

November, 2008, in Lawrenceville, GA: I drove Martha to Lawrenceville to get the results of the medical test Martha needed for immigration. On the way back we dropped by her sister’s house. I wanted to discuss some important business related things with her brother-in-law. We were only two minutes into the conversation where Martha got up and started walking away on foot. Martha’s brother-in-law and I sat there confused. Then I got up and drove to look for Martha and pick Martha up.

November 27, 2008, in Marietta, GA: I was still recovering from my second surgery. My face was still swollen. We had only been married for 3 months. Martha started a fight about a movie on TV. Martha asked her 17 year old son Raul to cut off the TV cables which he did in 4 places. I asked Martha to go with me to the bedroom and I told her in private that I did not understand how her son could cut off the TV cables without giving it any thought. I told Martha that if they continue doing things like that they would need to look for another place to live.

November 28, 2008, in Marietta, GA: Martha left the house on foot to go to the police with her 2 sons. Martha told the police I had thrown them out of the house. The next day Martha called the police again because Martha wanted to have my SUV. Then Martha told her sons to steal my car keys. Martha’s sons hid the keys somewhere in the house. I told Martha that I wanted the keys back. Martha refused. I told Martha that I would call the police. Martha told me to go ahead. I called the police. When the police came the policeman told her sons to find the keys. Her sons ran back to the house and came back outside with the keys. Martha and her sons left in a taxi.

November 30, 2008, in Marietta, GA: It had become obvious that there was something very wrong with us being married and I drafted the divorce petition. When I showed Martha the petition Martha was extremely arrogant and she told me that if I didn’t want to be married to her that I could file for divorce.

December 2008, in Marietta, GA: I had filed for divorce on December 1st. Martha told me she was going to look for a job but she lied. I found out later that she went to visit several battered women’s shelter in hope that they would accept her and that she could accuse me of domestic violence and get benefits: Certification, employment, medical care, free housing and… immigration to the US.

December 2008, in Marietta, GA: Martha finally found Laura Mora of the International Women’s House. She told Martha what she needed to do. Martha then called the police again to make a report of Emotional Violence. Martha needed that as evidence so that she could get to the shelter. Martha lied to the police. Martha told the police that I had called her and hers sons stupid. Then Martha started provoking me, hoping that I would hit her so that I would get arrested.

December 2008, in Marietta, GA: Martha had managed to convince the shelter to accept her. Martha became euphoric. Martha told me that she would accuse me of violence. Martha told me that there was nothing I could do about it. Martha told me she won, like it was a game we had been playing. Martha told me that I am worth nothing and that my house is depressing. Martha told me that she didn’t want the life she had had together with me. Martha said: “Why should I stay with YOU?” like I was an item at a store that she could choose among many other items. Martha told me that she had never forgiven me for the trip to Orlando we had had in June before Martha even asked me to marry her – this proves that when Martha begged me to marry her, Martha did it with the intention to make the false accusations against me. Martha said she knew how to deal with me because she had already dealt with Gil, Martha’s first husband. Martha said she would treat me the same way as if I were Gil. Martha demanded to have my SUV because if I would not give it to her, she would accuse me of more things and hurt me more.

December 19, 2008, in Marietta, GA: Martha left the house and moved to the shelter.

VAWA service center: International Women’s House, P.O. Box 1327 Decatur, Georgia 30031 Phone: 770-413-5557 Fax: 678-476-6804 eMail: iwh@bellsouth.net

Martha took my SUV with her.

December 31, 2008, in Marietta, GA: I had bought a bottle of wine and printed out some photos from the years we lived together. I drove together with a friend over to Martha’s sister’s house, assuming Martha would be there, wanting to wish Martha a Happy New Year and hoping that we would be able to talk. When my friend and I approached her sister’s house I noticed my SUV parked in the driveway. I left my friend to wait in the car and I stepped inside. I place the bottle and the photos on the table in front of Martha and said “Happy New Year”. Martha didn’t react for a few seconds and then Martha got up and started provoking me. Martha was rude and arrogant. I left immediately. I took the spare keys I had. I asked my friend to drive my car and follow me. I drove the SUV out of the drive way and headed back to my house. Martha sent her sons running after me. All three of them ran outside and tried to stop me as I was driving. Martha risked her sons’ lives. Martha and her sons got into the car my friend was driving and Martha asked him to follow me. After a couple of miles I stopped in a parking lot and called the police. When the police arrived I told them that both cars were mine and I wanted Martha and her sons removed. Martha then told her son Raul to lie to the police and tell them that I had tried to run over Martha and her sons. I waited until they finished talking and I told the police that my friend had seen what had happened. My friend told the police what he saw and the police took Martha and her sons away. Later I learned from her brother-in-law that Martha told them (lied to them) that I had been arrested. Martha’s brother-in-law called Martha a liar. He knew Martha.

January 8, 2009, in Marietta, GA: Martha made the FALSE ACCUSATIONS of Domestic Violence against me in the Cobb County superior court. In the shelter they had told Martha that she would get a lot more if she filed a petition for a Temporary Protective Order. Martha would get a lot more if Martha falsely accused me of Domestic Violence. Martha made FALSE ACCUSATIONS of Domestic Violence against me. Martha perjured herself in court.

January 13, 2009, in Marietta, GA: Martha went in front of the judge in Cobb County superior court and she swore that the petition for the Temporary Protective Order Martha had signed was the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Martha perjured herself again in court.

January 16, 2009, in Marietta, GA: I was served by the Sheriff with the petition for the Temporary Protective Order Martha had signed. I was still in bed when two deputies knocked on my door. When I opened the door one of the deputies read the judge’s order and asked me for the keys to my SUV. I told him that the SUV was mine, that we had a pre-nup. He didn’t care. I gave him the key and I told him that the SUV would not start. The deputies tried to get the SUV started. They made a few phone calls to figure out what to do. Then they left with the keys.

January 23, 2009, in Marietta, GA: Due to her petition for the Temporary Protective Order I presented at the court with a woman-lawyer I had hired. When Martha arrived she had her two sons standing around her to avoid a direct line of sight with me as if she wanted to hide from the shame. When the judge announced the case my lawyer explained that this case was not about violence, that it was about immigration and that Martha wanted the SUV that wasn’t hers. Martha swore to say the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Martha testified about things that happened before we were even married. Martha was arrogant and demonstrated lack of respect. Most of what Martha said had nothing to do with domestic violence. When the judge asked her, Martha said I had been violent. Martha perjured herself in court again. The judge knew Martha was lying and dismissed her accusations. My lawyer told me that Martha didn’t love me, that Martha had never loved me. My lawyer and I went to the court calendar to get a date for the divorce hearing.

January 29, 2009, in Marietta, GA: I went back to court for the divorce hearing. Martha wasn’t there. Martha didn’t even know about the hearing. The judge granted me the divorce. The judge didn’t care that Martha didn’t know about the hearing.

May 29, 2009, in Marietta, GA: I had written an email to Martha telling her that I still had her clothes in my house, that I didn’t want them in my house any longer, that I didn’t want to throw them away and that I needed to know what Martha wanted me to do with them. Martha did not reply. Then it was her nephew’s birthday. I drove over to her sister’s house with a birthday cake. As soon as I got there I got a phone call from the police on my cell phone. Martha was at my house trying to get in. The police told me that Martha wanted her stuff and that I must give it back to her. I told the police that I wanted to give Martha back her stuff but that Martha was not allowed to get into my house. The police said that Martha had told them that we were married. I told the police that we had been divorced since January. The police asked Martha to leave my property.

June, 2009, in Marietta, GA: I went back to court to ask what to do about her things. In the court I was told that I should file a motion. I filed a motion asking that I would no longer be responsible for her things. Then I went back to court for the hearing. The judge signed an order that forfeited Martha’s right to her things that she had left in my house.

July, 2009, in Roswell, GA: I went to her friend, Jacqueline at the clinic where she worked in Roswell to ask her if I can leave some of the things Martha left in the house with her. Jacqueline didn’t want to talk to me. She said she didn’t have any contact with Martha. I knew she was lying. I left the clinic and I went to Jacqueline’s apartment to see if Jacqueline’s mother-in-law was there in order to ask her the same question. I met a boy that I knew outside the apartment. The boy told me that Martha’s sons were in Jacqueline’s apartment. The boy knocked on the door for me. I heard Martha’s sons’ voices. They didn’t open the door. I told the boy to ask them if they wanted their stuff that I still had in my house. I went back to my car and left. Later I learned that after I left Jacqueline’s apartment the police arrived to pick up Martha’s sons and that Martha was not to have any more contact with Jacqueline’s family.

December 1, 2009, in Marietta, GA: I got a call from her brother-in-law. I told him I didn’t have time to talk to him because I was on my way out to visit a friend. It was a rainy night. I came back to my house at 1:30 am. I noticed some lights in the house. I was sure I had turned all the lights off. Then I noticed that my laptop PC was gone. My camera and two guitars were missing too along with some other items. I noticed that the back door was broken. My house had been broken in to. I had been robbed. I found a bottle on the floor. The bottle had been removed from a shelf where the receipt of Martha’s furniture was. Someone had been looking for the receipt. Only Martha would be interested in that receipt. Martha was behind the robbery.

To break the glass pane of the back door an axe was used. The axe had been hidden in the garage behind a cardboard box. Only Martha and her sons knew where that axe was. Among the items that were removed was a Sony Playstation that used to belong to Martha’s sons. They removed the Sony Playstation along with the accessories that were stored in a drawer. There were no sign of them looking for anything. They knew exactly where everything was.

March 8, 2010, in Roswell, GA: I went to see Jacqueline, Martha’s friend at her place of work, La Clinica de la Mamá. Jacqueline said that they, she and her husband Abraham were never my friends and that they were all the time only Martha’s friends. Then she started pushing me towards the door.

Interpretation: Abraham and Jacqueline were in on Martha’s plan to convince me to marry her and then falsely accuse me of domestic violence in order to get to a VAWA shelter and get immigration services and other services for her and her sons.

March 10, 2010, in Roswell, GA: Erick – Martha’s brother-in-law and I just talked about the trip to Orlando in June 2008… We made the trip to Orlando in June 2008 in a four-door car that I rented. Martha agreed to me renting that car. I paid for the car, the gas, the restaurants and hotels on the way.

In August 2008 Martha begged me to marry her in order to fix the legal status of her and her children. I agreed because I wanted to help, because I thought Martha deserved it.

After I filed for divorce three months later and Martha decided to make her false accusations against me and to get to a VAWA shelter, Martha told me that she had never forgiven me for the trip to Orlando. In court, where the judge dismissed her false accusations Martha talked about that trip – we weren’t even married yet when we took that trip.

Interpretation: When Martha begged me to marry her, Martha did it with the intention of making false accusations of domestic violence against me.

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Everyone who suffers this way and was not informed of the possibility or effect of VAWA by his immigration lawyer — sue your lawyer for malpractice.

What’s so [New and Improved] about the Safe Act that they should suddenly feel obligated to be honest with the factoids???

Also, good points concerning the ramifications. Good points all.

She sounds like a person that I’d like to know.

Until they start prosecuting false allegations, this will continue. What kind of message does that send to men??? Anyone????