Welcome to our site. Our goal is to put a bit of realism into what the DV court system does and what it’s gender-biased policies actually do to men. Compare that to what happens to women. The scales are in an unbalanced state these days, and with your input, help, stories and activism, we’ll all work to inject fairness back into this system where it truly belongs. We encourage all to come out with their stories. This will not be easy, as we all know that men typically do not complain. That’s how many of them wind up in the DV courts. They simply try to handle their business by themselves and in the sanctity of their own homes, privately.
We all know that it takes two for an altercation. We all know about the emotional abuse taught by the WA DV treatment system. It is there that it is defined as an innapropriate behavior. Funny that it is most often related to spouses, mostly female, who supply it indescriminately. Funnier yet, emotional abuse is not against the law. Unless it threatens you. It is an untested theory in court, but I don’t see why self-defense against this emotional abuse could not be used. Especially in front of a jury. Women claim it all of the time.
Another thought. If we all asked for jury trials and overburdened the court system, they would be forced to take only the serious cases, tossing unproven frivolity to the side. The courts are already overburdened and have recently been ordered to clear thei backlogs and to purge what they cannot take care of. Cases like mine.
I left the state of WA when they wanted to put me in jail for not completing my DV classes. I “flunked”, according to the “instructor”, who told me ‘That’s what women do”, when I described the $30,000 that she had embezzled from our account prior to filing false charges against me. Looking back on this, I’m proud of my actions and my ability to stand in the face of a state certified, unethical instructor.
My tax dollars….. Makes me proud…….
I was totally unprepared back then. Not any more. I have networked, made good, solid contacts and have gained wisdom as to how the system works, or in my case, didn’t work. I encourage you to join us and do the same. We can save you time, give solid advice, good referrals and some valuable insight into what you guys are in for. Totally free, of course. We are looking to get out the word, organize as Harry Crouch has done with CRISPE down in San Diego and now nationally. We know Seattle has the numbers of unfairly prosecuted individuals like the Richard McIvers out there, who had Judge Marianne Spearman offer his wife immunity for testimony against her husband, even both were at fault. Wisely, they chose not to play and the case was dropped. Others get much more complicated than this.
So please, introduce yourselves, share your stories and let’s get to work!
John Lukas
13 responses so far ↓
1 Rob // Nov 11, 2008 at 4:16 pm
John;
Good work. I’m encouraged to see that someone is taking this bull by the horns. you and i spoke 2-3 years ago when i was in the midst of my divorce – glad to see you are still standing. There is no question that this system needs to change and the atrocities brought to light. While my time and resources are limited i am willing and able to stand and fight for what needs to happen – will happen. Do you have a feel for “our” numbers here in Washington? I suspect our stories are more common than we think – strenth in numbers. i’m not finding on this site a ‘stories’ section where people can relate their experiences. also a ‘resouces’ section where we can help other minimize the battle scars. this is hopefully just the biginning.
Keep your chin up!
rob
2 jlukas // Nov 19, 2008 at 10:01 am
Thanks, Rob. I’m not quite sure if I remember you or where I met you. There’s been so many. But, thanks for dropping by and checking us out. Let all of your friends know about us, OK?
3 Joel Gamache // Aug 11, 2009 at 8:32 am
My name is Joel,I am so glad to see that we can do our best to try and turn things around for the falsely acused.I am a convicted so called women beater.I did not have money for a lawyer.And was told by my public pretender that if I did not take the plea-bargin that I would spend five years in jail for two counts of dv assult.Took the plea and moved to NC. from WA.SHORTLY AFTER MY SECOND STROKE FROM STRESS.
4 jlukas // Aug 11, 2009 at 9:05 am
I moved away from WI, and this crazy system they have due to the fact that I broke the no contact order because my ex called ME and I told her I KNEW about the $30,000 that she embezzled from me. She turned me in and I wound up spending 30 days in jail for that, even though embezzlement of that amount is a felony. I left the state after that as I had had enough.
5 philip cook // Aug 11, 2009 at 10:23 am
John,
Please contact me.
6 jlukas // Aug 11, 2009 at 1:18 pm
Please e-mail me at jlukas@wadvpress.org and we’ll go from there.
Thanks!
John
7 Joel Gamache // Oct 29, 2009 at 3:56 pm
Im, here again……………..Love this site,………I receive an E mail from my EX that states I must stay in contact w/ my kids.I had No # No Email No adress!………. and she would change the # when they would contact ME! Im confused,THANX WASHINGTON STATE!……..
8 jlukas // Oct 29, 2009 at 4:11 pm
Sounds like a setup to me. Bring a camera or some type of recording device with you, just in case to cover your ass.
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9 Carlo Delizo // Apr 22, 2010 at 8:51 pm
Glad to have found a local WA group. No doubt, I’m really convinced that KC court is pro-women. The judges/commissioners buy distorted facts and false allegations even if they are the ones doing the wrong deed. This is nothing but a wate of our tax dollars. Yet, the ultimate loser are the very children who grows up w/o or with very minimal interaction with their fathers. I’m in the middle of my battle now… It’s good to know there are people who I can count on some tips & advice. Let’s keep fighting.
10 jlukas // Apr 22, 2010 at 8:56 pm
Welocme, Carlo.
You have no idea how bad it is. Or, … maybe you do!
jlukas@wadvpress.org
11 Jenna // Jul 8, 2010 at 5:13 pm
I am glad to see their is support for men who have been affected by domestic violence. I want to invite you to come visit my site which may also prove to be helpful and supportive. if interested email me.
Thank you
12 Jenna // Jul 8, 2010 at 5:14 pm
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13 WADVPress // Jul 8, 2010 at 7:08 pm
Thanks, Jenna. We need all the help from the good women out there who are willing to police their own. I support women who are also caught up in these webs, and I’ve been known to be hard on those who lie to me.
It’s good to meet you.
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